Adelie and Staley's World

Adelie and Staley's World

Monday, April 1, 2013

Adjustment

With any big life change, there is an adjustment period.  An incredibly big life change, like a new baby for example, requires a bigger adjustment period.  We are all experiencing that.

Adelie is adjusting nicely to life outside the womb.  So far, she is a mellow infant.  She eats well, sleeps well, and has long (in infant time) periods of contented wakefulness.

Because Staley has been the sole center of our universe for the past 2 years, her adjustment period is a bit more extreme.  There have been more tears.  More sassiness.  More not listening.  More resistance.  More acting out.  Basically, there has been more of Staley acting 2.  However, the hard part is that her 2 year old-ness comes in short bursts and then she returns to our loving, sweet, fun, giggly, compliant little girl.  And although there may be some mild jealousy about her baby sister, she is still so sweet to Adelie.

The other morning, Zach overheard Staley talking to Adelie.  Adelie was sitting in her bouncy seat and Staley leaned over and said quietly, "I hope you love me."

Today Zach asked Staley, "Do you know who I love more than anyone in the world?"
Staley: "The baby."
Zach: "I do love the baby, but I was talking about you."
Staley: "I am sharing."
Zach: "What are you sharing?"
Staley:  "My Daddy."
Zach:  "You're sharing your Daddy with Adelie?"
Staley:  "Yes."

It's a big adjustment for Staley.  Sharing our time.  Sharing our attention.  Sharing her world with someone else.  At 2, that's a lot to take on.

Zach and I have had plenty of adjusting to do as well.  Adjusting to caring for two little ones.  Adjusting to determining how to deal with 2-year old behaviors when time out is still a fascinating game and immediate consequences are hard to come by.  Adjusting to feeling our hearts break with Staley tears and struggles, and feeling our hearts swell when looking down at a peaceful sleeping baby and cherishing the warm hug and sweet words of a two-year old girl.  Adjusting to the knowledge that now, instead of just one baby girl that we love more than anyone in the world, we have two.  And what a wonderful adjustment that is!

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