Adelie and Staley's World

Adelie and Staley's World

Friday, February 28, 2014

A Mind of Her Own

On Tuesday during Circle Time at Miss Meagan's house, they talked about March and what things happen in March.  On Wednesday, out of the blue, Staley told me:  "On St. Patrick's Day, I am NOT going to wear green.  I am going to wear purple because pink and purple are my favorite colors."

I love that Staley has a mind of her own.  And if you are going to take a stand on something, why not St. Patrick's Day?

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Eleven Months

How can Adelie be one month away from her first birthday?  Where has the time gone?  My baby girl is growing up.  She is out of most of her 9 month clothes and is starting to wear some of her 12-18 month things.  She still wears size 3 diapers.  She hasn't been to the doctor in awhile, so I'm not sure about her weight, but I'm guessing around 17 lbs.  She's still long and lean.  Adelie has 8 teeth (and I think she's working on some more).  She nurses 3 times, eats 3 meals, and takes 1-2 naps during the day.  She sleeps for 11-12 hours at night (from 7:30-6:30/7:00).  Adelie has moved from her infant carseat to her convertible carseat and no longer uses a bottle.  She's getting to be such a big girl.

Likes:  Adelie is my happy, giggly, mischievious, active little girl.  Her current favorite activity is crawling on/off and in/out of things.  She can spend 20 minutes climbing on and off a chair, in and out of the Cozy Coupe car, on and off her ride on toy, in and out of the toy boxes or laundry baskets.  Favorite toys include her house toy, Staley's cardboard house and tent/tunnel, her ride on toy, and push toys.  (Basically any toy that she can use while being active.)  She still likes looking at books with flaps, buttons, and sounds.  Adelie remains a good eater (although we're going through a throwing-food-on-the-floor phase) with favorite foods being pasta with sauce and fruit, although she still eats pretty much anything we feed her.  She likes being around people, loves animals, enjoys bath time, and still LOVES her big sister.

Always happy to be going for a walk

Dislikes:  Adelie is developing quite the attitude when things aren't going her way.  She will let us know when she's not happy about something with her LOUD, shrill scream.  She has also started throwing little fits when she's not getting her way where she will cry, arch herself backward, and kick her feet.  She gets mad when she's hungry and the food isn't coming fast enough (or when she's thrown all the food off her tray and then doesn't have any.)  This also applies to those times when she has pitched the toys/books out of her carseat and then doesn't have anything to play with.  She can also be testy about having her diaper changed, being left alone in a room, or having things taken away from her.  And if she is removed from a super-fun activity like playing with power cords, climbing on the steps, standing on a chair, trying to eat crayons/paper/cat fur, playing in the toilet, or emptying the DVD shelves (to name a few), she will express her displeasure.  Luckily she's still easily distracted and her unhappiness does not last very long.

Skills:  Adelie's gross motor skills continue to be her biggest strength.  She is fast, mobile, and into everything.  She crawls, cruises, walks all over with a push toy, can walk across a room with one hand held, stands without holding onto anything, and climbs, climbs, climbs.  She will take 2-3 steps when walking from one person to another, but is not yet walking independently.  I think she could, but is just too busy (and fast with her crawling) to try.  Adelie is still very proficient at pushing buttons, activating switches, and lifting flaps.  She likes to color for short periods of time, and enjoys putting things into containers.  Adelie feeds herself with her fingers and will take the spoon with food on it and bring it to her mouth.  She drinks independently from a sippy cup.  She likes to 'help' by putting the toothbrush in her mouth, bringing her brush/comb to her hair, putting her bow/hat on her head, and putting her socks to her feet.  Adelie still signs 'more'.  She has said a handful of words (banana, duck, dog, yes, done, up, Papa, Mama), but Dada, Sissy, and sock are her only consistent words.  She waves, claps, gives high fives, growls, snorts, whistles, plays 'so big', blows kisses, dances (by bouncing up and down), and gives hugs.  Her smile is contagious.

Adelie loves walking with her push toys

Adelie is our little firecracker.  She keeps us on our toes, but I couldn't imagine our life without her.

My happy little girl

Adelie at 11 months

Saturday, February 22, 2014

A Different Perspective

I have always been a fan of Disney movies.  Even through high school and college (and after), I would enjoy going to the theater to see the new animated movies as they came out.  Before we even started thinking about a family, I had a collection of some of my favorite Disney movies like "The Little Mermaid" and "Aladdin."  I enjoyed watching them without kids, so I knew that one day I would love watching my kids enjoy them.

However now that we are slowly letting Staley watch more and more of these princess movies, my perspective has changed a bit.  I knew that each of the movies have scary moments, tense situations, and bad guys that still give me pause.  But there are more subtle things that I had forgotten about.  I've heard words like "idiot" and "stupid", conversations about killing and death, even Ursula referring to Ariel as a "little tramp."  Very few of the princesses have two living parents.  Rapunzel was kidnapped.  Aurora was raised away from her family.  Snow White and Cinderella have evil step-families. Aladdin and Flynn Rider were thieves.  So many things that are difficult to explain to a 3 year old..

But one of the things that I've struggled with the most since sharing some of these movies with Staley is the overall theme of most of these Disney movies.  As Staley summed it up, "I need to put on my dress so we can kiss and fall in love."  When watching "The Little Mermaid" with Staley, I picked up on some disturbing themes from this teenage mermaid including:  if you don't like their rules, it's okay to disobey your parents; love at first sight will lead to happily ever after; completely changing yourself for a man may be necessary to find true love; 3 days to fall in love (without ever talking) should be more than enough; and kissing = love.  And many of the other movies share similar themes like passively waiting to be rescued by a man, falling in love with perfect strangers, or the importance of a kiss.  And don't get me started on "Sleeping Beauty".  Why on earth, when your daughter is cursed to prick her finger when she's 16 do you send her away for the first 16 years of life and then bring her home on her 16th birthday?  What is wrong with these people???

I want my daughters to grow up as strong, independent women.  I want them to know that they do not need a man to complete them.  I want them to understand that love takes time, and that kissing does not equal love.  I know there is plenty of time to teach them these lessons...but these Disney story-lines aren't helping.

Thursday, February 20, 2014


Staley got a new carseat.  Tonight when I removed her old one from the van and shook it out, I retrieved:  two hair ties, 9 fruit snacks, enough Cheerios/animal crackers/dry cereal pieces to feed a toddler army, 7 magnetic sea creatures, part of Cinderella's magnetic dress, and 51 cents.

All in all, I was pleased with the haul.  Looking forward to seeing what Adelie can stow away in there.

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

She Says...

I previously posted about our new household rule that band aids are only allowed if you are bleeding.  Today Staley and I had this conversation:
Staley:  "My finger really hurts.  I think it's bleeding."
Me:  "Nope.  It's not bleeding."
Staley:  (Exasperated) "When am I going to have bleeding?"

As we were driving home from some errands this morning, Staley asked what we were going to do when we got home.  I told her it would be lunch time and then rest time.  Staley responded, "I am not hungry or resty."

On Monday when Staley woke up, it was (shocker, shocker) snowing outside.  I opened her curtains and said, "Look, Staley.  It's snowing."  Barely looking up, she replied, "When is it going to be spring?"  You know winter has gone on too long when even the kids are ready for it to be over.  Despite that, we did enjoy playing in the balmy 40 degrees we had today.

Sunday, February 16, 2014

Biblical Teachings

This morning while Zach and I were cleaning up from lunch, Staley went upstairs.  When I headed up to check on her, she was sitting on the floor of our bedroom with my Bible open on her lap, 'reading' out loud.  A little later when she came downstairs, she was asked what she was reading.  I interjected with, "You were reading Mommy's Bible, weren't you?"  Staley responded, "No.  I was reading the book that was teaching me how to fly."

I'm no Bible scholar, but I'm surprised that I haven't stumbled across that section of the Bible.  I guess somewhere between loving your neighbor and giving to the poor is hidden a few verses about how to defy gravity.  I can see that spicing up a Sunday morning sermon.

Friday, February 14, 2014

Never Break Character

My days at home are not spent with Adelie and Staley.  They are spent with Adelie and Anna...or Adelie and Rapunzel...or Adelie and Ariel...or Adelie and Belle.  Staley wakes up each and every day as someone other than herself.  Usually the first conversation we have in the morning is Staley informing me of who she is.  And who she is to start the day dictates what she wears (Rapunzel wears purple, Belle wears yellow, princesses wear dresses, etc.) and how she wants her hair done (Rapunzel wears a back braid, Belle wears a half ponytail, Anna wears pigtail braids, etc.)  And often who Staley is on any given day then translates into who I am.  Because if Staley is Anna, then I'm Elsa.  If Staley's Ariel, then I'm usually Prince Eric.  I've also spent my days as the Beast, Flynn Ryder, Pasquel, Maximus.  (For those of you who aren't well versed in Disney princess movies, I'm usually either a male or an animal.)

The fact that my imaginative little gal starts each day as a different character isn't surprising.  But I find it pretty amazing that she can stay in character all day long.  (It is not uncommon, however, for her to change from one character to another during the course of a day.)  She'll consistently correct me if I refer to her as 'Staley'.  I can't tell you how often I've heard her say, "I'm not Staley.  I'm _______."  The other day, Staley was Rapunzel.  We were in the playroom and Staley wanted to put on her purple princess dress and a tiara.  Then she looked in the mirror wearing all her Rapunzel garb and exclaimed, "I look just like...(long pause)...myself."  (I know she was planning to say Rapunzel, but I loved the fact that, since she was Rapunzel, she simply noted that she looked like herself.)

Our days are never dull.  And whether I'm enjoying time with a mermaid or using my icy powers or simply dancing at a ball, I know I can count on Staley Anna/Rapunzel/Belle/Ariel to fill my days with adventure.

She's not Staley.  She's Anna.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Hope this day brings you...

a little sugar and...

a little spice.

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Tuesday, February 11, 2014


Band aids are only allowed if you're bleeding.

That's the new rule at our house.  Do you really need rules about band aids, you ask?  Unfortunately, the answer is yes.  Staley loves her band aids, but they were becoming a problem.  I didn't mind providing a band aid for the sore fingers, microscopic scrapes, or the invisible injuries.  I did mind the resistance to washing hands or taking a bath for fear of losing the band aid.  I did mind the need to replace the band aid each and every time it got wet/dirty/crinkled/shifted.  And I definitely minded the massive fit Staley threw the other night when she didn't get the band aid she requested.  Following that unfortunate display, the new Sancken household band aid rule was born.

Yesterday Staley, Adelie, and I were playing together in the playroom.  Adelie fell and bit her tongue.  She started crying and her tongue started bleeding.  I hurried Adelie into the bathroom to get a wet washcloth.  Staley hurried after me into the bathroom.  I thought it was so sweet of her to be that worried about Adelie.  Then, in a bit of a panic, Staley exclaimed, "Don't let her use up all my band-aids."

So baby sister bleeding from the mouth or the fear of running out of character-themed band aids.  Both are bad, but if you've gotta pick one, apparently priority goes to the band aids.

Saturday, February 8, 2014

The Ones I Like...and the Ones I Don't

Adelie is at such a fun age.  She's making new connections and learning new things on a daily basis.  And so many of these new skills are ones that make me smile.  Like how she'll now growl, whistle, and snort on command.  Or how, when we ask her where her hat is, she'll put whatever she's holding on her head.  To keep her semi-occupied during diaper changes, we just go through her repertoire of skills from 'so big' and high fives to blowing kisses, clapping, and waving.  It's so cute to see her 'combing' her hair or putting her socks to her feet or trying to put her bow back on her head.  And the way she lays her head on my shoulder when I ask for a hug just melts my heart.  So many new skills.  So many new skills that I like.

And then there are those things that Adelie is doing that I could do without.  Like how she wants to play in the toilet...any chance she gets.  We try to remember to keep the lids closed, but Adelie has found that when Staley is going potty is a prime opportunity to try to stick her hand in the water or throw her socks in.  Yuck!  And I could do without having to search all around the carseat for the hat and socks that Adelie has inevitably removed and thrown while we are driving somewhere.  The eating things off the floor, sucking on the kitchen cabinet handles, and trying to drink the bath water are all unfortunate.  And sometimes getting her dressed or changing her diaper is like wrestling an alligator.  But by far my least favorite new Adelie 'skill' (if we want to call it that) is the screaming.  Not crying.  Not getting worked up or upset.  Just screaming.  As in 'there is not anymore food on my tray'.  Scream.  'But I wasn't done trying to eat that magazine.'  Scream.  'Do you realize that I'm awake in my bed and you're not in here?'  Scream.  It's loud.  It's demanding.  And it's definitely not my favorite.

I like the waving.  The snorting makes me laugh.  I can't get enough of the hugs.  But the toilet play?  The screaming?  There are ones that I like...and then there are the ones that I don't.

Friday, February 7, 2014


There are many adjectives that I use to describe Staley.  Adjectives that make me smile as I think about who she is right now.  Imaginative.  Social.  Happy.  Sweet.  Do you want more?  Smart.  Thoughtful.  Talkative.  Independent.  I could go on and on.  So many of these are traits that I hope she holds onto as she grows.  Traits that will serve her well as a child.  An adolescent.  A teenager.  A college student.  A career woman.  A wife.  A mother.  A friend.  But there is one trait that I may pick above all the others as one I want her to maintain throughout her life.  Staley is confident.

I was thinking about this today when I took the girls on a morning outing.  It was a place that was just made for Staley.  The Inspired Arts Academy in Morton are opening their doors every Friday in February for a few hours for kids to just come and explore.  They have a dance studio with a full wall of mirrors, an art room, a music room, a gym, a theater room, even a bouncy house.  Of course, Staley loved it all.  But they also had dress up clothes, a stage, and working microphones.  For my singing, dancing, performing little gal, nothing could have been better.

Staley spent a long time on stage just walking around, changing outfits, dancing, and singing her made-up songs into the microphone.  There was no semblence of self-consciousness.  No worry about how she sounded or who was watching her.  Just pure confidence!

I must admit.  I was impressed.  I consider myself a confident person, but I took a little extra time getting ready this morning.  Staley and Adelie don't care if I'm in stretchy pants with no make-up, but I wanted to look a little more put-together for the other people we'd see there.  Staley tried several times to hand me the microphone to sing, and I was too self-conscious (and self-aware of my singing abilities) to share my voice with the room.  Staley had no problem joining right into play with a group of kids who were playing together while jumping into the conversation of a group of mothers was a little outside my comfort zone.  A new place.  New people.  New things to do.  It didn't phase Staley one bit.  

Watching her own that stage filled me up with joy.  Because it showed me that she knows who she is.  She is confident in who she is.  And I just love who she is.  I hope she's confident in that fact too.  

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

She Says...

Tonight as we were driving home from Peoria, Staley and I had several funny conversations.

As we were driving along, Staley pointed out another van on the road.  She said, "That van is bigger than ours.  And darker."  I agreed with her, and then started a game where I would ask if things were bigger or smaller than our van.  I'd ask, "Is a mouse bigger than our van?"  or "Is a whale bigger than our van?" or "Is a train bigger than our van?"  Staley thought this game was funny, and answered correctly which things were bigger or smaller than our van.  In a moment of inspiration, Staley said, "I know something that's bigger than our van."  Interested, I asked, "What?"  She responded happily, "YOU!"  (And that's why I'm resisting the urge to get myself a bowl of ice cream right now.)

Staley:  "When Adelie gets bigger, she will ride in my carseat and I will ride in a new pink carseat."
Me:  "That's true.  Adelie will get too big for her carseat soon and then she can ride in yours and we will have to get you a new one."
Staley:  "Yes.  I am getting too big for my carseat because I'm 3 and my carseat is a 2T."

Staley was in the backseat and yawned really big.
Me:  "That was a big yawn.  Are you tired?"
Staley:  "I'm not tired.  I'm just worn out."

Monday, February 3, 2014

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Hoping for Top 10

Adelie is building her vocabulary.  She now has 7 words...and mama isn't one of them.  Dada has made the cut.  So has sissy.  I'm fine with those.  But coming in behind sock, duck, and banana is a little humbling.